Solo Travel for the Medicare Generation

Before I departed on my one-woman tour of Europe in 2016 I read many blog posts, books and articles by women who enjoy traveling alone.  I don’t think I’ve ever found one that tells the negative side of solo travel for older women so I think it’s time for an honest report.

I am not a novice traveler.  My husband and I traveled for a nearly year throughout Europe. By car, train and cruise ship we went everywhere west of Budapest. Four years later we returned for five months in Ireland, France and Italy. Since then I’ve traveled alone quite often. I am a retired travel agent and I’ve often created tours and led as many as 30 people in places such as Athens and the Channel Islands. So I know how to travel!  (Or so I thought!)

In the year following my husband’s death I began planning an extended journey around Europe. I included in my itinerary some places I’d visited before and loved and some places I’d never been to but wanted to visit.  My journey lasted nearly five months and took me from Malta to Ireland. Here are some lessons learned about traveling alone from someone then approaching 70 years of age.

There are, to be sure, advantages to traveling alone. The most obvious for many people is that it’s better than not traveling at all.  When there’s no one to go with and staying home is not preferred, a carefully planned trip may be the best option. Taking a cruise, joining a tour group, becoming part of a ready-made collection of people is a good choice. Single travelers often have to pay as much as 100% more for a cruise or tour because the travel company had counted on two people in that room, not one.

For those who want a personalized itinerary — returning to Paris or finding a grandparent’s home town or seeing that not-yet-visited special place — going alone may be the only option. There are advantages to traveling alone. Desk clerks, rental car agents, and waiters were nicer to me than when I traveled with others. People offer assistance more readily. Perhaps my wrinkles help? Gentlemen helped me find a train station, told me the history of their towns, and forwarded mail to me after I’d moved on.

I spent much less on food because I prefer staying in vacation rentals with kitchens (called “self-catering” in the UK and Ireland). When I did go to restaurants I was paying for only one meal.  On the other hand, hotel rooms and rental cars generally cost the same whether one person or two will be using them.

Younger solo travelers often say it’s easier to meet people when you travel alone. I’m sure for them it’s true but I found it to be the opposite. I am not a woman who commands attention.  Little more than five feet tall, plain in appearance, dressed for comfort not style, I pass through the streets of large cities and small towns unnoticed. Although I’m quicker to strike up a conversation or to make a joke than I was when my husband with me, only once in my five months of travel was I invited to join others at dinner or for a walk or a drink.

As author Virginia Baily wrote in her novel Early One Morning, “Invisibility creeps up on you [as you age]. It is impossible to pinpoint the moment of its onset. Older than you might imagine when you’re young. A forty-year-old woman, for example, has a pull.  Perhaps around the age of fifty it begins … recently there had been a fading.”*

To be continued …

Libbie

* From Early One Morning by Virginia Baily: (p. 149)

The photo shows an Australian solo traveler with the hostess of a lovely B&B in Provins, France

Women Who Travel Alone

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As I’ve been planning my 2016 journey to Europe recently I’ve been telling my friends about my trip. While my best friends have been encouraging, many women have expressed fear for my safety and amazement that I would do such a thing at my age. Then, last Friday night, as the bad news from Paris began to be known, my son called to say “You’re not going there now, right?” At 6:00 Saturday morning I emailed the agent who arranged my Paris apartment to confirm my arrival plans.

It is not at all uncommon for women – even women with Medicare cards – to travel alone throughout the world. Yesterday I found a gift! On her blog called AdventurousKate.com, a young woman named Kate McCulley posted a listing of 16 women travel bloggers who are age 40+. These women write about their adventures as they explore the world. They are an inspiration for any woman who really wants to leave home for a while to expand her horizons.

You can see this list at http://www.adventurouskate.com/solo-female-travelers-over-40/. I hope you’ll take a few minutes to read this post which contains pictures, bio’s and links. It’s inspiring!

What do you think about these women travlelers? What’s been your experience as a solo traveler? Please share by posting a comment below. Thanks!

I found the photo at the top of this page when a friend posted it on Facebook. I know nothing about its source.